Do we think this way? Jesus’ mission was so defined as He went along that He understood at every moment that He was not “here on His own” but He was here on behalf of the Father. How significant it would be for God’s people to have this same attitude and understanding that we too, are not here on our own, but on Jesus’ behalf.

Genesis 25:29-34
29 Once when Jacob was cooking stew, Esau came in from the field, and he was exhausted. 30 And Esau said to Jacob, “Let me eat some of that red stew, for I am exhausted!” (Therefore his name was called Edom). 31 Jacob said, “Sell me your birthright now.” 32 Esau said, “I am about to die; of what use is a birthright to me?” 33 Jacob said, “Swear to me now.” So he swore to him and sold his birthright to Jacob. 34 Then Jacob gave Esau bread and lentil stew, and he ate and drank and rose and went his way. Thus Esau despised his birthright.

What were you thinking, Esau? Could you have possibly been that hungry? Maybe he didn’t think he could take another step without suffering death, who knows? It was a pretty amazing price to pay to have one meal. Whatever the case, it was a crazy deal and Esau was foolish—it was just a bowl of soup!

The birthright in the Jewish culture was given to the firstborn son to be the main beneficiary of the father’s estate. The father would verbally assign his property over to his sons just before his passing. The firstborn (or the eldest) would receive twice the portion and would be the head of the family.

We know that Abraham had been extremely wealthy and this had been passed down to Isaac. So Esau would have been given a double portion and been head of the household when the time came to receive the birthright.  So he gave all of this up for a bowl of soup. That was clearly a lack of judgment, to put it mildly.

Sometimes we get to a point in life where we feel so hungry and restless that we are almost willing to settle for  anything to simply fill the hunger and desperate-ness we are feeling.  Like Esau, we are tempted to reach for things far less satisfying and far less significant than God’s best.

The unfortunate reality in this story is this, a bowl of soup lasts a few minutes, the birthright was forever. When we settle, we get something that will never truly satisfy. When we wait for God’s plan, we get something that will last and will truly fill our hunger for good. It’s better to go hungry and wait for the food that lasts, than to settle for the food that’s not from God.

Maybe you’re hungry, waiting for God to do something. Maybe you’ve been praying and hoping for a long time and it seems that God is just taking His sweet time. You’re growing restless and sad, and wondering if He will ever actually do what you’ve been hoping for Him to do. Don’t give up. Hunger is not bad. Don’t settle for soup. Especially when lifelong blessing awaits in God’s perfect timing.

Sometimes the most important part of our journey with God is the time of waiting. These are the times when we grow the most as we trust in Him and believe in Him to fulfill His promises. They may be challenging times, but these are the times down the road that we will look back upon and treasure as we reflect back and see the sustaining power of God’s hand in our lives. We are always going to be waiting for something. And with each step, God will be working to increase our faith. Remember, without faith it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6).

In the end, the birthright is not even the point. God’s glory is the point. Are we willing to compromise to please our own hunger or do we desire God’s glory above all things. Would you rather go hungry, maybe even starve for the sake of God’s glory, or would you rather deny God and only be temporarily satisfied? For apart from God it’s all no more than a bowl of soup.

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Proverbs 23:1-5 – When you sit down to eat with a ruler, observe carefully what is before you, and put a knife to your throat if you are given to appetite. Do not desire his delicacies, for they are deceptive food.  Do not toil to acquire wealth; be discerning enough to desist. When your eyes light on it, it is gone, for suddenly it sprouts wings, flying like an eagle toward heaven.

There are several things I have discovered since coming out of full-time ministry and working in the corporate world that have been a little surprising to me. An important one being this, I didn’t realize how much I would like it. In fact, I was concerned if I would. Once I started to have some success at my job, I started to discover the delicacies and the deceptive food of the corporate world. And you should know that it is quite addictive. My competitive nature has seemed to fit right into  banking.

Once I tasted the benefits of success and the accolades, I was eager to have those again. In addition, people treat you different when you rank towards the top than when you don’t, especially the executives. The higher your scorecards, the more executives who know you and the better you are treated. We are one of the largest banks in the country, it’s a little exhilarating to be praised by high ranking folks and to be doing well at our bank—I have to confess.

I’m a branch manager and the first two quarters of this year our scores were incredible. It was the highest our branch had ever scored. At the midpoint of the year we were ranked number two in our area and number ten in the company, out of two thousand branches. I was pretty excited. Our branch was being talked about in meetings and people were calling me, congratulating me for our work and the example we were setting. Then the third quarter hit.

Everything changed. In a matter of just two weeks I lost my best salesman, we had to take on a problem employee which severely impacted the entire branch, and our deposits took a hit of 1.5 million dollars. That single hit practically destroyed our third quarter scoring possibilities in one instant. We went from being at the top to basically no chance of maintaining it in the third quarter. That quarter ended up being the hardest, most stressful quarter I’ve had sense being at the bank.

How true is the word of God, “When your eyes light on it, it is gone, for suddenly it sprouts wings, flying like an eagle toward heaven.” Such was certainly the case with me in the third quarter. God used it as a major reminder that He had not called me to the bank for success on a scorecard or for climbing a corporate latter. I needed to make sure I kept my mind and heart on mission and didn’t allow the addictive nature of the corporate delicacies to distract me from God’s intended purpose for having me there.

Why am I there? I’m there to glorify God and to proclaim His glory in everything I do. How do I do that? By simply being obedient and honoring Him in my job. Part of that is not allowing myself to be consumed by the things that the world is consumed by, the pursuit of wealth and success, power and position.

While God has me “at their table,” He wants my heart and mind focused steady on Him and about His glory. As I do this, I expect His favor to be upon me. This is why my scorecards were high in the beginning of the year. I’m thankful for the reminder in third quarter to keep my heart and mind “on mission”.

The things that this world craves will kill you. It will destroy your life. God knows this. It is suicidal to pursue them. That is what this verse is saying. God has given fair warning.

I’ll leave you with the words of Paul who said, “I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish [dung], in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him….” (Philippians 3:8-9a)

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I have found that one of the most valuable things a person can do in high pressure situations is to follow this verse. This has especially been helpful in my work environment, although I’ve certainly not always been a perfect example of it. The difficult thing is that it is the opposite of what comes natural. When things are high pressure it is not natural for us to restrain our words or to have a cool spirit. High pressure usually equals many words and hot spirit, if we’re doing what comes naturally.

Why is that? When we describe something as a high pressure situation, we are describing the way we feel internally about an external situation. When we submit our emotions and our mind to the external situation, then we get the internal result–the high pressure. This is the way we are built to respond, without growing in wisdom, and in Christ.

Here is a secret, no matter what you’re feeling inside, most of the time you can keep quiet and the people involved will think you are wise. Even if you are thoroughly upset on the inside, keep quiet. In the long run it will work to your advantage. Only speak if you have to, and then speak only what is necessary. And be calm.

Secret number two: How does this become natural? This only becomes natural as you grow in your walk with Jesus. In most cases, we get upset in high pressure situations because we are trying to protect our own interests or we’re trying to defend ourselves. As we grow in Jesus we know that He is our Protector and our Defender. He is the One that gives us favor and blessing. We do not have to fight for it, nor do we have to protect it. It is important for us to defend truth, but He is our defender, not us. Therefore, we can have a cool spirit and restrain our words because our trust is in him to defend us and not in ourselves to defend us.

The main moment that stands out was just before we left. I asked him if he was dealing with being in prison better this time than he did last time since this time he is a believer and last time he was not. He said it was just as bad. He feels just as depressed and just as much a failure. He said the best he’s ever felt was right after we met and we had gotten him into his trailer and all seemed to be going well, just before he got involved with the wrong crowd again and started using drugs again.

I asked Tim, “Do you trust me?” He said he did. I promised him that God could do a work in him such that he would be able to feel free and at peace even while he was in prison. He looks back at that past time as the best he’s ever felt and the best his life has been. I promised him that God could make him feel equally as good and satisfied even in his current state in prison. I didn’t promise it wouldn’t be hard in prison or that the conditions would miraculously become easy, nor that it would happen over night. Tim seemed to connect with this and wanted to believe God to do this in him. So we prayed together for God to begin a work in him to this end.

On several occasions, Tim has done things that were clearly acting in faith in God. Part of the reason he is in prison now is due to him turning himself in because of my name being on his bond. Although he was very tempted to run, he chose not to because he believed it would hurt me and my family. It was a $5000 signature bond–it would have hurt us, by the way. The morning of his hearing, he called and said he was leaving. I explained the situation and what impact it would have on me and if he wanted to honor God, the right thing to do was to go to the hearing. He hung up on me. He called back five minutes later and asked me to come pick him up.

I say that to explain that he has learned that God will honor him if he will act in faith. I challenged Tim today to ask God to help him have peace and joy while in prison, and I challenged him to believe that God can do this. I would appreciate your prayers for him.

The practical challenges Tim faces in prison are incredible. He can sleep only a couple of hours a night. His bunk is in a spot where people are walking around him and talking all night long, and he has a very hard time sleeping. Because of the gang situation, he tries to keep to himself and does not have many friends. He’s quite alone. He has headaches everyday, and his cancer having been in his sinuses and mouth have gotten to the point where he is very hard to understand when he speaks. So his interaction with others is challenged as well.

There is nothing easy for Tim. I imagine that few people I know have faced such difficulties in their lives as Tim, yet he is a beginner in the faith having to walk through incredible challenge. One day he will receive a great reward!

On July 26th I’ll be able to go see him for the first time in many months. I miss seeing Tim. I would appreciate you praying for him. At the end of our call last night he asked me to pray for him, which was a first. When I was done he said that he’s been praying every night and then he told me what he prays, which includes prayers for me and my family that God would bless us. Then he said he even threw in another guys name in the prayer the other night – a guy he has a history of having a great dislike for. We both laughed. It was a very genuine moment and it blessed me. God is working in Tim’s life. I don’t know that I would be as he is if I was in prison, knowing I would probably die there, with no family, terminal cancer, and a headache every day. But God is showing Himself strong and faithful and Tim is growing. I’m blessed to be able to watch this.

1 Timothy 6:6-11 (ESV)
Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.

It is so easy to get caught up in the thinking of this world, to be after what the world is after, and to give ourselves to all that the world cares about. And most of the time, as believers, we don’t seem to realize that we are so much like the world in our cravings and soul desires. God has called us to be content—a contentment that can only be found in Him. Yet, most believers find themselves in a consistent state of wanting. I’m reminded of the 23rd Psalm where David says “I shall not want,” yet most believers are often wanting. It is fully possible to be content right where you are in Christ. You need nothing more than you have right now to be content—Jesus is enough.

I think much of what the prosperity gospel teaches is wrapped up in what this passage of scripture condemns. It pushes believers to strive for more and more of what the world has to offer rather than to strive to be content simply in Who God is and in relationship with Him.

What are the things that you want more than anything else in the world? What are the things you are working hard far?

I work at a bank. I know that many of the people who work in the field that I do have career on their mind and climbing up the latter utmost on their priorities. Success in banking can mean good pay (unless our current president has anything to say about it). Just a few promotions from my current position, and I could be sitting pretty nice salary-wise. How easy it could be to put the pursuit of climbing up the latter ahead of my true mission at the bank. God forbid that I put moving up at the bank high on my list of priorities and lose site of the fact that I’ve been called to the bank by God, for God, and for His glory. I’m there for Kingdom purposes, to bare Kingdom fruit, and I will never be truly satisfied pursuing any other goal other than God’s goals in my being there.

There are many lives and families today that are in utter collapse because of the pursuit of riches and power and position. The passage above says that this pursuit will plunge people into “ruin and destruction”.  Anytime our passion is anything other than what God’s passion is, namely, His glory, we are setting ourselves up for terrible disappointment and distress. This passage says we should pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, and gentleness—that means to give effort and energy in this direction.  This is a far cry from what the world teaches us and it is a far cry from what the prosperity gospel teaches.  Can we really say that we are expending ourselves for these things? Am I working hard towards righteousness? Am I striving towards godliness and faith? Am I worn out at the end of the day from battling to be full of love and steadfast and gentle?  Probably, more often than not, I’m beat up and bruised because I’ve not been these things.

The truth is that true prosperity comes from an all out, wholehearted pursuit of Jesus—valuing Him and His glory above all things. It’s not in pursuing prosperity or riches that brings prosperity and riches, rather, it is in pursuing Jesus and the things that are dear to Him that bring us the greatest joy and blessing.

God, help me pursue You, Your glory, right thinking, and all that would be pleasing and honoring to You with all my heart and all that I am.

Sunday morning was one of the hardest experiences I have ever had. I had already been asked to fill in for Randy, our pastor, who was planning to be on vacation at Disney World. As God’s timing is always different than ours, Tucker went home to be with the Lord early Sunday morning, and I was on to preach for our church family that morning. Never have I been so nervous or had such a heavy heart. To compound the issue, it had been over two years since I had preached in a public setting such as this. Although I sensed God’s hand upon the service and me as I spoke, my emotions were at their highest. My prayer is that God was honored and Tucker and his family were honored by the message which was heavy on my heart and I believe truly a word from God for our church family.

I would say that there has been no other event in my life where I have witnessed the glory of God in greater measure than I have surrounding the life of Tucker Beam. How God has blessed The Church at Ross Station because of what Tucker and his family have gone through has been amazing. Many lives will be transformed by the Gospel of Christ all because of the Glory of God demonstrated through his seemingly short life.

One thing Randy mentioned in the funeral message today that stood out to me was that Tucker and his parents were just “ordinary” people. And they are. They are ordinary people…who love God, and have placed their hope and trust in Him. In this, glorious things happen. God loves to use ordinary and do extra-ordinary.

My heart hurts for Jason and Courtney Beam, but I am also joyful at the great gift they have been given and the favor God has given them in entrusting Tucker to their care these nine years. My heart hurts for Lily that she won’t get to know her big brother personally on this earth. But I am greatful that all she will learn of him will inspire her and lead her to higher heights that she might never have known otherwise. 

Thank you, Lord, for Your glory demonstrated through the life of a little boy named Tucker. 

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. – Arthur Miller

Betrayal Hurts

It is a painful thing to be betrayed, and the pain is equally proportional to the depth of the relationship or the level of vulnerability. The more close you are, the more hurt you will be should the relationship end in betrayal. The more vulnerable you are, the more you’ve laid out in the open or the more you’ve laid on the line, and therefore, the greater the hurt from the betrayal. If a stranger speaks against you, not such a big deal. If someone you don’t know ignores you, it won’t keep you up at night. If the drive-thru person at McDonald’s is rude, you’ll get over it. But if it is someone who’s eaten your food, someone you have sweated for, rejoiced with, and mourned with; their betrayal will bring pain. If the betrayal is going to cost you something, like your job, or your place to live, or something valuable or dear to you, it’s going to hurt. The greater the relationship and vulnerability, the greater that pain is going to be.

In regard to Judas, Jesus’ level of vulnerability was great, and the closeness of the relationship was great.

1. Jesus had stepped down from his eternal, glorified position to take on the form of a man.
2. He took on the nature of a servant.
3. He was obedient unto death.
4. He had “shared His bread”
5. He had shared three years of His life.
6. He had given Judas position-as treasurer, and as a disciple.
7. He had washed Judas’ feet.
8. He loved Judas.

Some of the thoughts that may have been going through Jesus’ mind:

• “You ate my bread. How could you then turn around and betray me?”
• “I washed your feet, and then you walked out and turned against me.”
• “I made you the treasurer, and you stole from me.”
• “I’ve come to give my life on your behalf, and the value you place on me is 30 pieces of silver.”

Hurt By The Church

Have you ever been hurt by the church or someone in the church?There are people all over, many folks that I have met personally, who have been through some horrible things within the church. Some of these were betrayed by individuals within the church, others were betrayed by a group within the church, and some by the whole church. Having been on the receiving end myself on several occasions, I can tell you that there has been nothing more painful in my life, and I would have to believe the same is true with others who have been through similar circumstances.

In my case it was leaders in the church. In all instances I had no way to fight back or to stand up for myself. I had to take the hit, and walk away feeling the pain with no opportunity to respond in any substantial way. In two situations, I was made to look as if I had done something wrong, when in both cases the cause was that I had stood up for what was right.

What Do You Do When You’ve Been Betrayed?

Goal number one is to honor God.

Betrayal is a test of our devotion to God and our faith. Your one responsibility is to honor God, no matter what has been done to you or how great the impact has been. When you stand before God and give account for your life, you won’t be able to use what someone else did or didn’t do as your excuse for sin and disobedience. You will never go through more than Jesus went through, and he’s the one you’ll be standing in front of on the day of judgment.

Let the experience help you treat others better.

If someone hurts you by their actions, then you know how it will feel to someone else if you do it. Having had a bad boss, you’ll learn how to be a better boss. Having had a bad friend, you’ll learn how to be a better friend. Having had a bad parent, you’ll learn how to be a better parent.

Let the experience make you a minister to others who are betrayed.

There’s no better minister to hurting people than someone who can say “I’ve been there.”

Hebrews 4:15-16 -”For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

Understand that you’re going to be betrayed again.

In our story, Jesus was telling of the betrayal before it happened. He was aware the whole time that it was going to happen. If you except the fact that it is going to happen, you’ll be better prepared when it does.

John 13:16 -”I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him.”

John 15:20-”…a servant is not greater than his master, if they persecuted me, they will also persecute you.”

How Can I Be Healed And Get Over This?

Goal number two is to be healed.

It is important to make the distinction that what we need comes second to God’s purpose. Goal number one is to honor God. Above all things, our response to anything must be God’s purposes and His glory. This must guide our decisions and our actions regardless of how hurt we are, how bad the consequences or impact is on us personally. If God’s purpose and glory is not primary we will sin and dishonor God and make the situation much worse.

Realize that the hurt doesn’t go away fast.

You will have to work at this, and it will take some time. It will not be easy and it won’t just happen. It will require God working inside of you and time. And, if we’re being honest, it won’t ever go completely away. Scars don’t go away. But the neat thing about scars is that they are impacted greater by the sun. When you’re out in the sun, scars get darker than the other parts of your skin. I consider that an illustration of the spiritual impact that emotional scars can have-they make a doorway for us to absorb more of God, grow closer to Him, and reflect more of Him.

Forgive-Pray for God’s help to forgive.

You will never be healed and free from this event until you are walking in forgiveness. You will not be able to forgive without God’s grace and divine help. Forgiving is not natural, and it is especially hard when the pain and the bad circumstance is still there. Pray like the man who lacked faith, “I believe, help my unbelief.” – “I forgive, help my unforgiveness.”

The decision to forgive is different than feeling as if you’ve forgiven. Just like the decision to love is not the same as feeling love. Just as love is not a feeling or emotion, so forgiveness is not a feeling or emotion. It is a decision. You must decide, and then act according to that decision. Don’t act according to your feelings or emotions.

Forgiveness is not about you, it’s about Jesus.

Hebrews 9:22 -”…without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”

1 John 1:9 -”…He is faithful and just, and will forgive us our sins…”

Isaiah 53:5 -”He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed.”

Matthew 6:14 -”For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

Battle against wrong thinking.

Thinking on the issue will only increase your anger and pain. Allowing yourself to think bad thoughts about the person or people who’ve hurt you is only going to make matters worse. Deciding to forgive means to speak against those bad thoughts and feelings and to act as one who has forgiven. You must hold to God’s truth to fight against the evil thoughts that Satan will try to get you thinking on.

This is a spiritual war and the battleground is in your mind. The way you think will determine the way you act and how soon you will walk in freedom. Even today, I have to fight thinking bad thoughts when I remember those who’ve betrayed me. I can just as easily get angry and feel those hurt feelings all over again if I don’t bring every thought captive for God’s glory.

2 Corinthians 10:5 -”We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,”

Romans 8:6-8 -”To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God.”

Philippians 4:8-9 -”Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me-practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”

Realize that the offending person is no different than you.

You have probably done something that has hurt someone and made them feel betrayed too. There could be people in the world who’ve had to go through this process as a result of your behavior. We are quite capable of being just like the people who’ve hurt us, and therefore, we must have grace for them.

Jesus took this a step further. He wasn’t like us. He didn’t betray people. But He had grace and His thinking toward those who crucified Him was to say, “Father forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.”

Don’t let the fear of betrayal rob you or lead you into sin.

It is common for people who have suffered betrayal to put up walls and build a mote around themselves to prevent it from happening again. This allows the evil done through the betrayal to continue to hold them as a slave and rob them from God’s blessing in their life. If someone you loved betrayed you, don’t let that keep you from loving again. If you gave a great deal to someone who took advantage of you, don’t let that keeping you from giving to the next person.

We love and give of ourselves as an act of worship-”as unto God”-we don’t do it for our own gain. The joy is having done it for Christ. If it is an offering, whatever happens with it is in God’s hands and should not direct the satisfaction or joy we receive from it.