The Secret to High Pressure Situations – (Proverbs 17:27-28)

Proverbs 17:27-28 – “Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.”

I have found that one of the most valuable things a person can do in high pressure situations is to follow this verse. This has especially been helpful in my work environment, although I’ve certainly not always been a perfect example of it. The difficult thing is that it is the opposite of what comes natural. When things are high pressure it is not natural for us to restrain our words or to have a cool spirit. High pressure usually equals many words and hot spirit, if we’re doing what comes naturally.

Why is that? When we describe something as a high pressure situation, we are describing the way we feel internally about an external situation. When we submit our emotions and our mind to the external situation, then we get the internal result–the high pressure. This is the way we are built to respond, without growing in wisdom, and in Christ.

Here is a secret, no matter what you’re feeling inside, most of the time you can keep quiet and the people involved will think you are wise. Even if you are thoroughly upset on the inside, keep quiet. In the long run it will work to your advantage. Only speak if you have to, and then speak only what is necessary. And be calm.

Secret number two: How does this become natural? This only becomes natural as you grow in your walk with Jesus. In most cases, we get upset in high pressure situations because we are trying to protect our own interests or we’re trying to defend ourselves. As we grow in Jesus we know that He is our Protector and our Defender. He is the One that gives us favor and blessing. We do not have to fight for it, nor do we have to protect it. It is important for us to defend truth, but He is our defender, not us. Therefore, we can have a cool spirit and restrain our words because our trust is in him to defend us and not in ourselves to defend us.

Filed under: Wisdom , a word for today

My Visit With Tim Today

I was able to visit Tim today for the first time in about 7 months. It didn’t start off very well. When I walked in to the first guard area they said my pants were to light of a color–a light khaki color, almost white. The color was to close to what the prisoners wear so they wouldn’t let me in. I had to drive to Wal-Mart and buy some darker pants. Fortunately there was a Wal-Mart about fifteen minutes away, so I wasn’t delayed to much.

The main moment that stands out was just before we left. I asked him if he was dealing with being in prosin better this time than he did last time since this time he is a believer and last time he was not. He said it was just as bad. He feels just as depressed and just as much a failure. He said the best he’s ever felt was right after we met and we had gotten him into his trailer and all seemed to be going well, just before he got involved with the wrong crowd again and started using drugs again.

I asked Tim, “Do you trust me?” He said he did. I promised him that God could do a work in him such that he would be able to feel free and at peace even while he was in prison. He looks back at that past time as the best he’s ever felt and the best his life has been. I promised him that God could make him feel equally as good and satisfied even in his current state in prison. I didn’t promise it wouldn’t be hard in prison or that the conditions would miraculously become easy, nor that it would happen over night. Tim seemed to connect with this and wanted to believe God to do this in him. So we prayed together for God to begin a work in him to this end.

On several occasions, Tim has done things that were clearly acting in faith in God. Part of the reason he is in prison now is due to him turning himself in because of my name being on his bond. Although he was very tempted to run, he chose not to because he believed it would hurt me and my family. It was a $5000 signature bond–it would have hurt us, by the way. The morning of his hearing, he called and said he was leaving. I explained the situation and what impact it would have on me and if he wanted to honor God, the right thing to do was to go to the hearing. He hung up on me. He called back five minutes later and asked me to come pick him up.

I say that to explain that he has learned that God will honor him if he will act in faith. I challenged Tim today to ask God to help him have peace and joy while in prison, and I challenged him to believe that God can do this. I would appreciate your prayers for him.

The practical challenges Tim faces in prison are incredible. He can sleep only a couple of hours a night. His bunk is in a spot where people are walking around him and talking all night long, and he has a very hard time sleeping. Because of the gang situation, he tries to keep to himself and does not have many friends. He’s quite alone. He has headaches everyday, and his cancer having been in his sinuses and mouth have gotten to the point where he is very hard to understand when he speaks. So his interaction with others is challenged as well.

There is nothing easy for Tim. I imagine that few people I know have faced such difficulties in their lives as Tim, yet he is a beginner in the faith having to walk through incredible challenge. One day he will receive a great reward!

Filed under: Faith, GLAD Ministry, Tim Newman, Trust

Update on Tim

I wanted to give a brief update on my friend Tim. He’s currently in the Bibb County Correctional Facility. We went through a time period where we weren’t able to speak much for about two months, only twice. He was becoming really depressed and irritable. I was allowing my busy life to keep me from talking on the phone with him like I should. He’s perked up a little now though since we’re back to talking once a week and since we sent a little money to him and he was able to have some ice cream (his favorite choice of desert).

On July 26th I’ll be able to go see him for the first time in many months. I miss seeing Tim. I would appreciate you praying for him. At the end of our call last night he asked me to pray for him, which was a first. When I was done he said that he’s been praying every night and then he told me what he prays, which includes prayers for me and my family that God would bless us. Then he said he even threw in another guys name in the prayer the other night – a guy he has a history of having a great dislike for. We both laughed. It was a very genuine moment and it blessed me. God is working in Tim’s life. I don’t know that I would be as he is if I was in prison, knowing I would probably die there, with no family, terminal cancer, and a headache every day. But God is showing Himself strong and faithful and Tim is growing. I’m blessed to be able to watch this.

Filed under: GLAD Ministry, Tim Newman , cancer, Outcast, Poor, Prayer

Pursuing Prosperity and Riches or the Glory of God

1 Timothy 6:6-11 (ESV)
Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.

It is so easy to get caught up in the thinking of this world, to be after what the world is after, and to give ourselves to all that the world cares about. And most of the time, as believers, we don’t seem to realize that we are so much like the world in our cravings and soul desires. God has called us to be content—a contentment that can only be found in Him. Yet, most believers find themselves in a consistent state of wanting. I’m reminded of the 23rd Psalm where David says “I shall not want,” yet most believers are often wanting. It is fully possible to be content right where you are in Christ. You need nothing more than you have right now to be content—Jesus is enough.

I think much of what the prosperity gospel teaches is wrapped up in what this passage of scripture condemns. It pushes believers to strive for more and more of what the world has to offer rather than to strive to be content simply in Who God is and in relationship with Him.

What are the things that you want more than anything else in the world? What are the things you are working hard far?

I work at a bank. I know that many of the people who work in the field that I do have career on their mind and climbing up the latter utmost on their priorities. Success in banking can mean good pay (unless our current president has anything to say about it). Just a few promotions from my current position, and I could be sitting pretty nice salary-wise. How easy it could be to put the pursuit of climbing up the latter ahead of my true mission at the bank. God forbid that I put moving up at the bank high on my list of priorities and lose site of the fact that I’ve been called to the bank by God, for God, and for His glory. I’m there for Kingdom purposes, to bare Kingdom fruit, and I will never be truly satisfied pursuing any other goal other than God’s goals in my being there.

There are many lives and families today that are in utter collapse because of the pursuit of riches and power and position. The passage above says that this pursuit will plunge people into “ruin and destruction”.  Anytime our passion is anything other than what God’s passion is, namely, His glory, we are setting ourselves up for terrible disappointment and distress. This passage says we should pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, and gentleness—that means to give effort and energy in this direction.  This is a far cry from what the world teaches us and it is a far cry from what the prosperity gospel teaches.  Can we really say that we are expending ourselves for these things? Am I working hard towards righteousness? Am I striving towards godliness and faith? Am I worn out at the end of the day from battling to be full of love and steadfast and gentle?  Probably, more often than not, I’m beat up and bruised because I’ve not been these things.

The truth is that true prosperity comes from an all out, wholehearted pursuit of Jesus—valuing Him and His glory above all things. It’s not in pursuing prosperity or riches that brings prosperity and riches, rather, it is in pursuing Jesus and the things that are dear to Him that bring us the greatest joy and blessing.

God, help me pursue You, Your glory, right thinking, and all that would be pleasing and honoring to You with all my heart and all that I am.

Filed under: Faithfulness, Family, Life, Love, Riches , Devotional

Tucker Beam – The Glory of God

I never had the privilege of meeting Tucker Beam. Yet, over the past few weeks I have witnessed one of the most amazing demonstrations of God’s hand on an individual that I have ever seen. After being a part of his funeral today, witnessing around 700 people celebrating his life, and more than 40 people choosing to follow Jesus, I’m so thankful for the work that God has done through Tucker’s short life. One can’t help but be amazed by the evidence of God’s glory surrounding a single life.

Sunday morning was one of the hardest experiences I have ever had. I had already been asked to fill in for Randy, our pastor, who was planning to be on vacation at Disney World. As God’s timing is always different than ours, Tucker went home to be with the Lord early Sunday morning, and I was on to preach for our church family that morning. Never have I been so nervous or had such a heavy heart. To compound the issue, it had been over two years since I had preached in a public setting such as this. Although I sensed God’s hand upon the service and me as I spoke, my emotions were at their highest. My prayer is that God was honored and Tucker and his family were honored by the message which was heavy on my heart and I believe truly a word from God for our church family.

I would say that there has been no other event in my life where I have witnessed the glory of God in greater measure than I have surrounding the life of Tucker Beam. How God has blessed The Church at Ross Station because of what Tucker and his family have gone through has been amazing. Many lives will be transformed by the Gospel of Christ all because of the Glory of God demonstrated through his seemingly short life.

One thing Randy mentioned in the funeral message today that stood out to me was that Tucker and his parents were just “ordinary” people. And they are. They are ordinary people…who love God, and have placed their hope and trust in Him. In this, glorious things happen. God loves to use ordinary and do extra-ordinary.

My heart hurts for Jason and Courtney Beam, but I am also joyful at the great gift they have been given and the favor God has given them in entrusting Tucker to their care these nine years. My heart hurts for Lily that she won’t get to know her big brother personally on this earth. But I am greatful that all she will learn of him will inspire her and lead her to higher heights that she might never have known otherwise. 

Thank you, Lord, for Your glory demonstrated through the life of a little boy named Tucker. 

Filed under: Death, Faithfulness, Family, Glory of God, Suffering

Betrayal – (John 13:18-30)

John 13:18b – “He who shares my bread has lifted up his heel against me.”

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. – Arthur Miller

Betrayal Hurts

It is a painful thing to be betrayed, and the pain is equally proportional to the depth of the relationship or the level of vulnerability. The more close you are, the more hurt you will be should the relationship end in betrayal. The more vulnerable you are, the more you’ve laid out in the open or the more you’ve laid on the line, and therefore, the greater the hurt from the betrayal. If a stranger speaks against you, not such a big deal. If someone you don’t know ignores you, it won’t keep you up at night. If the drive-thru person at McDonald’s is rude, you’ll get over it. But if it is someone who’s eaten your food, someone you have sweated for, rejoiced with, and mourned with; their betrayal will bring pain. If the betrayal is going to cost you something, like your job, or your place to live, or something valuable or dear to you, it’s going to hurt. The greater the relationship and vulnerability, the greater that pain is going to be.

In regard to Judas, Jesus’ level of vulnerability was great, and the closeness of the relationship was great.

1. Jesus had stepped down from his eternal, glorified position to take on the form of a man.
2. He took on the nature of a servant.
3. He was obedient unto death.
4. He had “shared His bread”
5. He had shared three years of His life.
6. He had given Judas position-as treasurer, and as a disciple.
7. He had washed Judas’ feet.
8. He loved Judas.

Some of the thoughts that may have been going through Jesus’ mind:

• “You ate my bread. How could you then turn around and betray me?”
• “I washed your feet, and then you walked out and turned against me.”
• “I made you the treasurer, and you stole from me.”
• “I’ve come to give my life on your behalf, and the value you place on me is 30 pieces of silver.”

Hurt By The Church

Have you ever been hurt by the church or someone in the church?There are people all over, many folks that I have met personally, who have been through some horrible things within the church. Some of these were betrayed by individuals within the church, others were betrayed by a group within the church, and some by the whole church. Having been on the receiving end myself on several occasions, I can tell you that there has been nothing more painful in my life, and I would have to believe the same is true with others who have been through similar circumstances.

Filed under: Church, Faithfulness, Family, Forgiveness, Grace, Healing, Jesus, Life, Love, Obediance, Prayer, Suffering, Worship , Lifesong Church - from Sunday's Message

Pray for Tim

A little over a year and a half ago our church began helping Tim. He was homeless, had just been released from prison, had terminal cancer, and no family or friends to speak of. He has come to know the Lord and been growing slowly, but surely. Unfortunately, a number of months ago, he fell into a deep depression while undergoing radiation, leading him to start using drugs again. This has caused him to end back up in prison. He has been repentant and is accepting his fate well.

Recently he has been doing worse health-wise. Sores are coming up on his head and neck and he is in a lot of pain. He has already had the maximum amount of radiation allowed, so he can have no more. It hasn’t been so easy to get him the treatment he needs while in prison.

We feel a little helpless and want to be able to give him some care. I’d appreciate folks praying for Tim. He has had a very hard and terrible life. My prayer is that the last of his time on earth, although it will most likely be in prison, will still be joyful–with him finally having people who care about him and are communicating with him. And above all with him enjoying getting to know God and being changed more and more.

We would appreciate you joining us in praying for him.

Filed under: Outcast, Poor, Prayer, Suffering

The Greatest Among You – (John 13:1-20)

I don’t care much for feet. I don’t like my own feet, much less other people’s feet. Feet are not usually pretty, especially guys’ feet. There are some people who dislike feet so much that it hinders there life. Listen to this testimony from a post on a website:

As long as I can remember I’ve felt immense disgust about bare feet. Any bare feet, -old feet, young feet, ‘nice’ feet, bad feet, any, except baby feet perhaps. Ignoring them I tried but doesn’t help, just knowing they’re there makes me loose my appetite, and hearing the word in my own language which is Dutch, triggers a really strange ‘physical’ feeling of disgust. I feel truly uncomfortable being in a room with many bare feet! Also I’m always hiding my own feet, even feel anxiety about having to show them -although there’s nothing wrong with them. And although martial arts interest me, I’d never subscribe for a training for this reason.

Maybe I’m wrong, but doesn’t everyone have a little bit of angst about other people’s feet? …especially if they’re dirty, ugly, hairy feet. If you think that your disgust of feet is to the point of being unhealthy, it’s possible that you have Foot Phobia. Yes, that’s right, it’s a disease. If this is you, then here’s a message from a phobia website to help:

How To Get a Foot Phobia Free Life
It is foot phobia if it happens that you fear looking at your feet or touching your feet, or someone else’s feet are touching you. This phobia can impede your work, interfere with schooling as well as your social relationships. Before going further, you need to learn more on phobias. Essentially phobia is a continual irrational fear that can lead to extreme anxiety. Once you encounter the phobic situation, you would experience increased heart rate, sweating, breathlessness and an overwhelming desire to get rid of the cause. For some they feel it is an imminent danger of dying. Those with foot phobia are even afraid of discussions about feet. The situation gets worse, if they have somebody stepping over their feet. They would always cover their feet with slippers, socks or shoes to avoid a direct brush. Some of them even sleep with their shoes on. (http://www.phobia-fear-release.com/foot-phobia.html)

Of course, the person who wrote this has authored a book that will, according to him/her, help you overcome your phobia. If the above is a description of you, then this story of Jesus washing His disciple’s feet will have even greater significance to you. My presumption is that most people can at least slightly relate to foot phobia, and that there aren’t many who would jump at the chance to touch other people’s feet (with the exception of people who have another problem which I don’t intend to get into).

Jesus is Our Example

The first important message from this story is that Jesus calls us to be a servant, and He doesn’t just ask us to be a servant, He sets the example by being a servant Himself. The Bible says about Jesus that “He made Himself nothing, taking the form of a servant…” (Philippians 2:7). And here, in this story, He takes it on Himself to perform one of the lowliest servant tasks of the day.

Filed under: Culture, Fear, Giving, Jesus, Obediance, Servanthood , Lifesong Church - from Sunday's Message

How to Lose a Crowd in Seven Days – (John 12)

It was six days prior to Passover when John 12 begins. By the time of Passover, Jesus would be crucified and is followers would have abandon Him. Are you a great leader if all of your followers leave you? Are you a great leader if they all disagree with you? Are you a great leader if your followers don’t understand you?

For Jesus, the answer to all of those questions was yes. The path of obedience to the Father is one that will often lead in an opposite direction from what normal thinking would predict or assume. Even in our current culture within the American Church, there is a great deal of thinking that is more like the popular culture than the thinking Jesus clearly operated in. Jesus never had an inkling of a thought to gain a crowd, rather, His only pursuit was to be obedient to the Father-doing and saying only what the Father desired of Him. In many cases, the words and the actions were ones that turned people away rather than making them loyal followers.

What it actually was accomplishing was to filter the crowd to find the people whose hearts were pure in following Jesus. They weren’t following Him for their own gain or to see miracles, rather, they were following because they knew He was the Messiah. Obedience was the motive.

Here are some things Jesus did that helped to turn many away:

1. Point out the corruption in the heart of your followers.
2. Lead a movement that is opposed to the ways of the popular culture.
3. Refuse the route of popularity and fame.
4. Be willing to lay your life down and not fight.

Point out the corruption in the heart of your followers.

This is what Jesus did with Judas. He didn’t hesitate to show that Judas was thinking wrong and it was probably clear to Judas that Jesus knew the corruption was much deeper. Here’s how Jesus responded when Judas complained about Mary’s “waste” of the perfume: “Leave her alone, so that she may keep it for the day of my burial. The poor you always have with you, but you do not always have me.”

Filed under: Church, Commitment, Culture, Death, Faith, Fear, Jesus, Obediance, Worship , Lifesong Church - from Sunday's Message

Worshiper or a Thief – (John 12:1-8)

My first encounter with Tim was at a gas station, as many of you will remember. I was coming home after a meeting, and as I was pulling off the interstate I realized my gas was very low. I pulled into the gas station to fill up. Right by the street in the gas station parking lot stood Tim with two big bags. It was clear that he was homeless and he might be going to ask me for money. My spirit’s first communication to me was that this was a man that could use some help and this was an opportunity. Immediately my brain kicked in and said that this man was probably in his bad situation because of his sinful life. If I helped him, I’d just be helping him to do more bad things-i.e. if I gave him money, he’d just buy drugs or alcohol-and chances were high that he was dangerous.

At the time of this encounter, I was only a week or so past having taught on two very important things. One was how God has called us to pour ourselves out for the poor in Isaiah 58. Second was how God has never called us to be safe, and I had read a long portion from a book which described this fact very well. Here I was, divinely placed by God, to put my money where my mouth was.

My first response was to hide at the farthest pump, we can call it the pump of disobedience. If I was quick to obey, I would have parked at the closest pump to Tim, the pump of obedience, welcoming his approach. Instead, I drove right past the pump of obedience in order to hide behind the pump of disobedience. And in the end this action did me no good whatsoever.

As God’s sovereignty would have it, Tim walked all the way across to get to me. There was a strange combination of fear and conviction inside of me as I watched him approach. Once he arrived, God proceeded to force me to do all the things I had been teaching about. The rest is history and God used it to bless me and change me in a major way, and God used it to change Tim’s life for the glory of God. These days I go once a week to visit Tim in jail to talk with him and to pray with him.

This story with Tim is a good illustration for what is being portrayed in John12:1-8. What we see in Mary and in Judas reveals the war that goes on inside of our minds and hearts when God asks things of us. The Bible teaches that we either operate in obedience to the spirit or obedience to the flesh. Mary demonstrates obedience to the spirit, and Judas demonstrates obedience to the flesh.

Everything Belongs to God

Everything you have, whether it is money, family, friends, career, houses, cars, clothes, and etc…, has all been entrusted to you by God. It belongs to God, and, in giving it to you, He has asked you to be a steward of it. The Bible teaches that everything belongs to God:

Psalm 24:1, (ESV)
1The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein….

Exodus 19:5, (ESV)
5Now therefore, if you will indeed obey my voice and keep my covenant, you shall be my treasured possession among all peoples, for all the earth is mine;

Deuteronomy 10:14, (ESV)
14Behold, to the Lord your God belong heaven and the heaven of heavens, the earth with all that is in it.

Job 41:11, (ESV)
11Who has first given to me, that I should repay him? Whatever is under the whole heaven is mine.

Unfortunately, we tend to look at things a different way. We think that what we have is

Filed under: Commitment, Giving, Knowing God's Will, Obediance, Poor, Poor and Outcast, Religion, Trust, Worship , Lifesong Church - from Sunday's Message